The Minor Mistake is Sometimes a Major Improvement

Weave mistakes advantageously into overall pattern.

Many of the world's finest Oriental rugs come from little villages in the Middle East, China, or India. These rugs are hand-produced by crew of men and boys under the direction of a master weaver. They work from the under side of the rug-to-be. It frequently happens that a weaver absentmindedly makes a mistake and introduces a colour that is not according to the pattern.

When this occurs, the master weaver, instead of having the thread pulled out in order to correct the colour sequence, will find some way to incorporate the mistake harmoniously into the overall pattern. In weaving our lives, we can learn to take unexpected difficulties and mistakes and weave them advantageously into the greater overall pattern of our lives. There's an inherent good in most difficulties

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Excellence in action in an organization is, when employees : Pay attention to the details, do things right the first time, and practice good human relations

People tend to look upon succesful people as they appear to be now. They overlook the many years of hard work, failure, frustations, and problems all encountered, lots conquered all along the way

In order for people to be happy in their work, these three things are nedeed :
1. They must be fit for it;
2. They must not do too much of it;
3. And they must have a sense of success in it.

If you're boss and your people fight you openly when they think you're wrong, thats healty. If your men fight each other openly in your presence for what they believe in that's healty. But keep all the conflict eyeball to eyeball

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No matter how much work a man can do, no matter how engaging his personality may be, he will not advance far in business if he cant work through others

When you send a clerk on business to a distant province, a man of rigid morals is not your best choice

The businessman is coming to realize that education is to business what fertilizer is to farming

Be moderate is praising a man when he is present, but give him full credit when he is absent

The frog tried to look as the elephant, and burst

The sparrow is sorry for the peacock at the burden of its tail

The mob has many heads, but no brains

Great people are attracted to great leaders, great managers end up working for great people

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The best careers advice given to the young is,
"Find out what you like doing best and get someone to pay you for doing it"

When a stupid man is doing something he is ashamed of, he always declares that is is his duty

Duty largely consist of pretending that the trivial is critical

When you have a number of disagreeable duties to perform, always do the most disagreeable first

You cant hold a man down without staying down with him

Too many people quit looking for work when they find a job

The secret principle of human nature is the craving to be appreciated

Working with people is difficult, but not impossible

You cant have everything in one person

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The first problem for all of us, men and women, is not to learn, but to unlearn

Man are never attached to you by favours

If thou art a master, be sometimes blind, if a servant, sometimes deaf

The best way to get things done is to allow your subordinates to formulate
their own methods of operation

A man who cant tolerate small ills can never accomplish great things

It appears on close examination, that work is less boring than amusing oneself

Far and away the best prize that life offers is chance to work hard at work worth doing

The difference between a job and a career is the difference between 40 and 60 hours a week

There are plenty of employees who have retired on the job

I WILL

I will think

I will develope ways to achieve positive attitude

I will keep my reviewing my goals

I will accept what i cant change

I will learn from my mistakes

I will start living

I will smile

I will relax

I will be happy

I will enjoy

I will be honest to myself

I will remain humble

I will put myself in the other person's shoes

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Computers do not make mistakes ; people do

You can have the best seeds in the world, but if your
seed bed is not prepared properly, germination will not be proper

90% of your work can be done by your subordinates and
genuinely get paid for 10% (those who follow this
deserve what they get)

people are not against you, they are merely for themselves

Those who are pulling on the oars don't have much time
to rock the boat

what takes one guy one hour to do;
it take two guys two hours to do

nothing provides more leisure than a number
of capable assistants

Never give a man up until he has failed at something he likes

Lessons are not given, they are taken

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People can be devided into three groups : -Those who make
things happen -Those who watch things happen
-Those who wonder that happen

Good people without discipline are worth nothing

See the good in people and try to develop those qualities

Inefficiency : If it cannot be overcome and an employee is
obviously incapable of the job, find a job he can do or
terminate now. Don't wait

Don't to do an employee's job for him, counsel and suggest

We do not hire a man's history, we hire the man

The people you may have with you may not be the best ones.
But how you use them. decides your profits

A good leader leads the group with the flag in his hand
He does not have to shout

People do judge you by the way you speak

Be A Self Starter

A slight turn of the key actuates the self-starter that further sets the automobile engine roaring. Some way, a bit of motivation puts a self starter person into action and it such people who lend dynamism to organisations.

If you observe people long enough, you will realize that the self made ones have an abundance of working parts that don't just work from 9 to 5, but also from 5 to 9.

And only the self-starters are capable of being self-made. Throughout history that have been two categories of people, i.e those who create wealth and those who consume it. Self-starters are the ones who create something, not only wealth but also dynamism. Be a self-starter.

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The reason many people fail to recognise opportunity is
because it comes disguised as hard work

The least important word in social and congregational life is "I"
and the most importantn word is "YOU"

Work smarter, not just harder

It is good to become a hero in films, but not in the business world!
Ensure that your team becomes the hero

Jobs don't have futures; people do

People are seldom angry for the reason they think they are angry
There is usually something else at the bottom of it

Encourage people to suggest possiblesolutions to each
problem that they are putting up

Treat people like winners

"If you want to plan for a year, plant corn. If you want to plan for 3 years
plant a tree. But if you want to plan for 10 years, plant men"

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The Used key is always bright

There is nothing so powerful as the truth

There is no such thing as a perfect situation

These hackneyed proverbs contain the very essence of the ditilled
wisdom of all ages

30% of your employees are lazy, stupid, dishonest and so on.
Take this factor into your calculation

Throw dirt enough, and some will stick

Walk 25% faster, and you will feel not only smarter but
will impress other people. Try

Apprasial system is no good unless effective grievances
processing system is there

Positive and negative strokes should be well mixed

Leadership is like moving a string, you cannot move it
by pushing from behind; what you have to do is to get ahead and pull

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Give editorial freedom to a nightingale and you will get a song
of summerin full throated ease. Give to a pig
and you will get a grunt

Give someone a title. You make a hundred people angry and one
person ungrateful

He gives twice who gives quickly

He that would eat the fruit must climb the tree

He travels fastest who travels alone

If you want to get a thing done, give it to the busiest executive

Any person who enjoys responsibility usually gets it

The best of men is he who sees his own faults and does not
see the faults of others

Everything takes longer than you think. So add '10 to 30%'
before you give a target date

The squeaking wheel gets the grease

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Start treating your people as grown-ups. Give them responbility
and authority. Trust them

Never be too busy to say nice words to your people whenever they
do something good. Go out of your way to find such opportunities

The rapidity with which we forget is antonishing

Do you show enthusiasm, initiative, loyalty, devotion to your business
and your people? If you do, you will get it from your people, too

Upgrading your people is a far more challenging job than upgrading
yourself or your facilities

Delays make the people get uninterested and lazy

A ballet dancer needs a mirror to perfect her style and technique.
A manager needs to develop his own mirror

A man who climbs to the peak foot by foot earns far more respect
than the one who reaches there by a helicopter

A person's true character is so often revealed by the manner in which
he receives praise

Don't Make Best The Enemy of Better

Many times it so happens that we forget the "better" in our quest for the "best". If we implement "better", in nine out of 10 cases it would lead us to "still better". Why go far for an example if you are a married person? Think of your spouse.Is he or she the best person as you had desired before getting married? Yes? May be you think so now. Good for your material bliss. But, be sure. Didn't make some compromise somewhere in the looks, habits or profession? Now, had you waited for getting the "best" spouse, you would have definately remained unmarried trhoughout your life

Remember : GOOD, BETTER, BEST

Always start with GOOD and then implement it. Next, try to improve it to do BETTER and still BETTER. Make an on-going process for doing BEST

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When you want to get things done, use creative ways to remind people.
Don't forget that people tend to forget conveniently

Accept praises with humility because you must not forget that,
backstage, you have a whole lot of team-mates
who helped you achieve all that you have

Understand the Pygmalion effect. Or the "Holi" way- i.e if you will
spray scented water on other people, they will do the same to you.
And if you smear them with dirty water, they will do that to you

SHOUT...whenever you are reasonably sure that someone in the team
is over or under carrying the load

15% success is due to technical skills and 85%
due to skills in human engineering

Good managers are not born,
they are obtained by training

Most people remember twenty percent of what they hear

Never stop Listening; Never stop Learning: Never stop Training

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Never be indictive with anyone. Forgive and forget

Start measuring your people by the size of their thinking
not only in kilograms and inches

A wound inflicted by speech is more powerful than
a wound inflicted by the sword

Trust is like a think thread. Once you break it, it is almost
impossible to put it together again

Do not take it for granted that working together works
automatically. You have to always keep on "reparing the fences"
to keep your business in good condition

When big bells ring, no one hears small ones

When management arrives before the workforce,
and leaves after they do,they are seen as providing leadership

An administrator must be adept at adapting

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Working together won't work if you do not take to ask
anyone who has not carried his share of the load

No rebuke is so powerful as the influence of good example

Nothing makes a person's chest stick out further than being asked
his opinion on a subject he knows is of special importanceto the asked
It makes one feel his judgement is valued

Working together works and with a smile, working together
really work faster, better, smoother

One man makes the difference...the leader

Firmness with fairness and quickness tones up team

People want to work and they want to work purposefully

people work for satisfaction. They work for challenge and recognition
Money, yes, buys their hands. The rest buys their heads and hearts

Shape up or ship out

Manage Yourself Better Before You Manage Others

3 BETTER PRINCIPLES OF SELF-MANAGEMENT

1. THINK...THERE MUST BE A BETTER WAY
2. DO IT NOW
3. ASK FOR IT

6 BETTER CONCEPTS OF STAYING AHEAD

1. VISIT YOUR COUNTERPARTS REGULARLY
2. DO YOUR "SWOT" ANALYSIS
3. SET YOUR GOALS
4. APPLY THE "MISER"WAY TO WHATEVER YOU ARE DOING
5. DON'T MAKE BEST THE ENEMY OF BETTER
6. THE SIXER CONCEPT

9 BETTER HABITS FOR RESULTS

1. MAINTAIN DIARY-CUM-CHECKLIST
2. MANAGE YOUR TIME AS YOU MANAGE YOUR MONEY
3. MANAGE YOUR PEOPLE IMAGINATIVELY
4. TAKE AND MAKE DECISIONS QUICKLY
5. ADMIT YOUR MISTAKES GRACEFULLY
6. STICK YOUR NECK OUT
7. KEEP YOUR MINDS 6% TO 9% EMPTY
8. POSITIVE ATTITUDE PAYS
9. HEALTH IS HAPPINES
   

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Everyone is a trainee as well as a trainer

Everyone needs training.
From a Prime Minister to a Peon

Managing your business is an art and not a science

Training demands patience and persistence

The wind carries away the scattered particles of sand,
causing them to float all arround. When these particles join to make
a mountain, no tempest is strong enough to shake them

It is more fun to be overworked than to be undeworked

It requires more commonsense to get work done than to do it

Training demands positive attitude

Training is expensive to impart as well as to receive

Never allow two people o do a job which only one can do

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Delegate but don't forget

Demand and you will get it, i.e extraordinary perfomance
from the average man or from yourself

Different strokes for different folks

"What matters most today is the ability to think
together and not alone

The hard and unbending are broken by change;
the supple and yielding make way and prevail

It is true that we learn by listening, yet we don't listen

Teach, don't preach

Listening is an art. Listen with your eyes also

Few persons weight the faults of others without a thumb
on the scales

I have always worried about people who are willing to work
for nothing sometimes, that is all you get from them -nothing

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You cannot train a horse with shouts and expect it to obey a whisper

You cannot teach new tricks to an old dog. True
But you and we are not dogs

Never try to teach a pig to sing. It wastes your time
and annoys the pig

find out whether it is ignorance or indifference. Ignorance is easy
to remove by education and training. And indifference
needs creativity to be removed

Please allow overtime to your accounts people, if need be.
Overtime is bad habit. Yes. But better to have a minor
ailment than to have cancer

Best leaders lead by demonstrating how it is done

Working together is success

Condemn action, not people

Critism dispensed in small doses rather than large is a lot easier on
a person's ego and is far more productive

Positive Thinking Pays

A blind person once said : "I thought when I lost my sight, I would be doomed to unhappiness. Now I have discovered that I am happier without my sight. Most of my unhappy thoughts came in throught my eyes. I saw beautiful faces of other people and was dissatisfied with my own looks. Most joy produsing thoughts come into people's minds in the dark anyway. Don't you close your eyes when you pray?"

This blind person has learnt to paint without eyesight. You are not hadicapped until you think you are.

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Conduct meetings with your managers in your head before meeting
them across the table

There is no easy way to dress up someone's perfomance
without dressing him down

A man will not sell his life to you, but he will give it
to you for a piece of colured ribbon. Grant ribbons

The administrator may have to stay out of the way
in order to get his way

An organisation is a union of ordinary people
doing extra-ordinary work

A projecting nail must be hammered down

A soft voice is heard long after the shout.
Gentleness is stronger than anger

An executive succeeds or fails not so much because of what he does,
but because of what he is able to get someone else to do

Sound becomes music if a trained man uses it. Training is essential

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Speed of the boss is the speed of the team

Relax! Relax! Relax!Learn to relax while you are doing your work!

There are two sides to every issue, so make certain you
keep both your ears open and listening

People are sick of getting letters that sound like they have been written
by a computer that knows their name

There's small choice in rotten apples

Treating people courteously requires very little effort

Please all and you please none

Good leadership starts with good communication with people

NETMA : Nobody Ever Tell Me Anything! Dangerous situation.
Learn to avoid it. At least do your bit

A boss has to be good shock absorber

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Be not angry that you cannot make others as you wish them to be,
since you cannot make yourself as you wish to be

Some people think they are generous because they give away free advice

Your mind is the best asset you have. Minds of your people are the "assets"
which do not appear in your balance sheet. We use only 10% of our minds.
And so much going down he drain...THINK, always

To keep customers, business needs to invest in its employees

Everybody wants to succeed. Give them a fair chance

There is always more to learn and more to earn for every employee

We learn a lot by listening to our employees, because, after all,
wisdom is not the exclusive possession of management

People don't waste time. They just spend it on things they don't need to do

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From softness arises humility. From humility arises trust.
From trust arises togetherness and one mind

The secret of his sucess was his ability to attract exceptionally able men
and to treat them with so much respect that they never left

Anyone can live by working 8 to 5, but sucess is achieved by working from 5 to 8

Before you point a finger at your employee, use the "dipstick"
on yourself as to how honest you are with your customers

"Personally I am very fond of strawberiies and cream, but I find that for some
strange reason fish prefer worms. So when I go fishing, I don't think about what I want.
I think about what they want"

Your mind is like an acre of land. Look after it! Hard work like tilling;
good reading acts like fertilizerrs ; discipline like pesticides

Feel like a hero every day by doing a good deed to your employees

7 Basic Rules Towards Acquiring A Positive Attitude

1. Treat every person with whom you come into contact as the most important person on earth.
2. If your attitude is not right, nothing else is right and you have even before you start
3. The human mind can hold only one thought ata time prominently. Since there is nothing to be gained by being negative, be positive.
4. The deepest craving of human being is to be needed, to feel important, to be appreciated. Give it to them and they will return it to you.
5. You can learn something from everybody.
6. Don't waste your time broadcasting personal problems.
7. Do not talk about your health unless it is good.
   

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Throughout history there have been two categories of people:
thoese who create wealth and those who consume it

People who accept resposibility are the people who
are making the most of their lives

If you observe people long enough, you'll realize that the self made
ones have an abundace of working parts

If each of us hires people who are smaller than we are, we shall become
a company of dwarfs. But if each of us hires people who are bigger than we are
we shall company of giants.

In your job or at your house, you are the member of an orchestra
It depends upon you whether the result of your team is music or noise

Listen to what your employees say. Very often, their ideas are like burning members.
You can kindle them into fires or into ashes by merely dropping a few
drops of cold water in the form of judgement

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Tail dropped off from man when it was no ore needed.
You and I also be dropped

A man should live with his superiors as he does with fire,
not too near, lest he burn, or too far off, lest he freeze

A suggestion scheme can works as well in business with six employees
as in a company with 1000 employees

Working together does not only bring out the best in all of us,
it brings the best in each of us

Remember that a person's name is to that person the sweetest
and most important sound in any language

What you can get people to do is the best thing
you can do for people

You can get more work with a kind word and a gun than you can
with a kind word alone

Your mind is like a camera with memory! It can take several pictures
which you can "file" for subsquent use

German army won't let a soldier file a complaint
and make a criticism immediately after a thing has happened

The Tide Always Comes Back

A successful businessman told me what had turned the tide for him when he was doing poorly. It was a picture of a boat stuck in the sand, the tide out. The title of that picture was The Tide Always Comes Back. Don't ever accept defeat. Never even think, I can't. Instead say to yourself, "The tide always comes back". It will, and if you will it so

Winners vs Losers

The Winner is a part of the answer
The Loser is a always a part of the problem

The Winner always has a plan
The Loser always has an excuse

The Winner says "let me do it for you"
The Loser says "that's not my job"

The Winner sees an answer in every problem
The Loser sees a problem in every answer

The Winner sees a green near in every sandtrap
The Loser sees a sandtrap in every green

The Winner says "It may be difficult but it's possible"
The Loser says "It may be possible but it's difficult"

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Don't tell me how hard you work
Tell me how much you get done

If you were a dairy farmer, would you employ twice as many milkers as cows?

Never hire your friends. Never hire your client's children.
Never hire your own children

Whenever you get medals, give them to your colleagues. You will get more

Do a kindness once and it will be seen as a fovour, do it twice
and it becomes a duty

Hating people is like burning down your own house
to get rid of a rat

Coming together is a beginning; keeping together is progress;
working together is success

You can preach a better sermon with your life than with your lips

Don't run down the other man's plans unless you have better ones to offer

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A manager creates conditions for his people to achieve results

A manager shows his greatness by the way he treats little employees

I will speak ill of no man, and speak all the good I know of everybody

Trust people;
96% of them are honest

Those who only do what they are told are seldom told to do anything

It ain't what you say, it's the way that you say it, that's what get results
Mouths is 10%; eyes is 20%; head is 30% and hearts is 40%

We overestimate the intelligence of others and underestimate ours!!

Use meetings and conferences for cross-pollination of better ways

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What upsets me is not that you lied to me, but that
from now onwards I can no longer believe you

If you have peanuts t0 offer, you will get monkeys

Never hire anyone who will work for money alone

Pay well, cheap employee is expensive

When you need 2,5 people, hire the second one

Helping people helps in the long run

Oh, give us the man who sings at work

Don't keep a dog and back yourself
(Think, Decide, Delegate)

Praise in public. Reprimand in private

Doing should not be confused with getting done

Every employee likes to do what he likes and not what should be done

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He is a good friend that speaks well of us behind our backs

There is no work as delightful as the work done for others

Never say you knoe a friend till you have devided an inheritance with him

To lose friends, just tell them something for their own good

90% of your friends will hurt you and only 10% will give you
support when chips are down

Your friends is the man who knows all about you,
and still likes you

Prosperity makes friends and adversity tries them

God send me a friend that will tell me of my faults

Books and friends should be few and good

One sure fire, fast way to lose a friend is to comply with his request for a loan

The Winner Never Quit

Two boys were walking down a country road, when they saw two milk cans to be loaded for delivery in a nearby city. Seeing no one, the boys lifted off the cover of Can Number 1 and dropped in a bullfrog. Then they lifted oof the cover of can number 2 and dropped another bullfrog, later the cans were picked up and loaded for city delivery.

During the journey, the bullfrog in can number 1 said: "This is terrible! i can't lift off the cover of the can bacause it's too heavy. I have never had a milk bath before, and I can't reach to the bottom of the can to get enough purchase to lift the cover, so, what's the use"...and he gave up and quit! when the cover of can number 1 was taken off, there was a big dead bullfrog.

The same conditions existed in can number 2, and the frog said to himself:"Well, I can't lift off the cover, because it's too tight and too heavy. I haven't got a brace and bit to drill a hole to save myself, but by the great Father Neptune, there is one thing I learned to do in liquids and that is to swim. "So, he swam and swam, and swam,and churned a lump of butter and sat on it, and when the cover was lifted of, out of he jumped.

The winner never quits and the quitter never wins.

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Two person cannot long be friends if they cannot forgive each other's little failings

God evidently does not intend us all to be rich or powerful,
or great, but does to intend us all to be friends

The firmest friendships have been formed in mutual adversity. As iron
is most strongly united by the fiercest flames

All men have their frailties, and whoever looks for friends without
imperfections will never find what he seeks

A sorrow shared is a sorrow halved

Don't walk in front of me, I may not follow.
Don't walk behind me, I may not lead
walk beside me and just be my friend

Three day of uninterruptedcompany in a vehicle will make you better friends
that one hour's conversation with him every day for three years

Develop friendship with people having twenty-twenty vision

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A real friend never gets in your way unless
you happen to be on the way down

Never contract friendship with a man who is not better than thyself

A little straight talk between friends is sometimes the best way to stay friends

You can hardly make a friend in a year, but you can lose one in an hour

A merely fallen enemy may rise again but reconciled one is truly vanquished

The difficulty is not so great to die for a friend, as to find a friend worth dying for

Have you fifty friends? It is not enough
Have you one enemy? It is too much

Friendship improve happiness, and abates missery
by doubling our joy, and dividing our grief

The language of friedship is not words, but meanings.
It is an intelligence above language

An Optimist and A Pessimist

An optimist would say it is half full. A pessimist would say it half full.

Both are right. However, one is happy with what has already been achieved whereas the others is the ever complaining type. It all a difference an attitudes and no doubt, possitive attitude pays.

"Two man looked out from prison bars; One saw the mud, the other one saw stars"

Everybody in the world is looking for happiness and there is one sure way to find it, by controlling your thoughts. Happiness doesn't depend on outward conditions. It depends on inner conditions. Think and thank. Think of all we have to be grateful for, and thank God for all the boons and bounties. If we think happy thoughts, we will be happy. If we think miserable thoughts, we will miserable. Who lives content with little possesses evrythink.

"I had the blues because I had no shoes; Until upon the street, I met a man who had no feet"

When fate hands us a lemon, let us try to make lemonade.

Nothing Dies Faster Than A New Idea In a Close Mind

When King Solomon was asked to tell the real flowers from the artificial ones kept in the room without touching or smelling them, he opened the window facing the garden, making way for the bees to come in and swarm around the real ones.

Similarly, till the time you keep your mind closed, you will not get to know the difference between the valuable and the dead ideas.

Therefore, lift the inverted bottle that puts out the flame of your mind; doing so will make way for the oxygen of new ideas to come in to make your mental flame burn brightly.

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Family business is a serious business. Its review and planning for future
cannot be done merely over lunch or dinner

It is important to tell your son once a while when
"enough is enough"

There is no single way but several better ways which you can show to your son
and the chances are that he will like a few of these

Don't force your son to do what you like him to do He will then hate to do it
Let him decide himself and you will be surprised at his initiative

Your son is like a body of flowing water, you can regulate its flow by
making small bunds. You can then channelise the energies of your son
towards the disired goal

There is little less trouble in governing a son than a whole kingdom

One father is more than a hundred schoolmasters

It really is impossible to please all the world and your father, all the time

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If you keep the book too close too your eyes you can only strain your eyes and not read the book
Distance is required, also, between father and son for the son to grow worldly-wise

Normally, the sons create and will continue to create problems unless you plan
or unless they are smart enough

The opportunity for doing mischief is found a hundred times a day,
and of doing good, once in a year

Mark Twain said in a tribute to his wife :
"Wherever she was, there was Eden"

Most of the businesses are in herited by children the way
the children get inexperienced parents!

Children are not born with an understanding of what they can do or what they are worth to others. They surlely won't have any idea what they find out.
And they'll find this out best in the hands of objective outsiders.

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If your wife is your sleeping partner in business, please wake her up!
It will benefit you both tremendously

The best thing to spend on your children is your time

The way to get along is to go along

Whenever we disagree, which is seldom, she goes her way and I go her way too

Give your son a fish...he eats today
Teach him how to fish...he eats everyday

A gem cannot be polished without friction nor a son without trials

While entitled children ache at the burden of labour nine to five,
the entrepeneurs rise before dawn and work happily from five to nine

A woman once asked Thomas A. Edison to write a motto for her son.
And Edison wrote: "Never look at the clock!"

Don't Let Paralysis Get into Your Mind

In Tokyo I once met another American, an anspiring man, from Pennsylvania. Crippled from some form of paralysis he was on a round thye world journey in a whellchair,getteing a huge kick out of all his experiences. I commented that nothing seemed to get him down. His reply was a classic ; "It's only my legs that are paralyzed. The paralysis never got into my mind"

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Do not have your life-insurance proceeds paid to your widow in cash-but have them properly invested. It is worth the conlsultant's fee

First rent a new house to your enemy, then to a relative, and only then live in it yourself

some parents scarcely bring up children; they finance them

The road to seccess is filled with women pushing their husband along

A joint family can create more problems. Partnerships are made to be broken.
So do not take relationships for granted

Don't dwell too long on the shortcomings of others. Sure, your husband has faults
If he had been a saint he would have never married you. Right?

The only way to live in this world is for every man to have a fair-sized
cemetery to bury the faults of others

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Your child is always watching you and unless honesty, truthfulness, and sincerity become your habits, you do not have a chance of becoming a hero in the eyes of your children

As parents, do not forget, you are leaders for your sons and your daughters!
On leadership, remember: "Don't push: PULL"

As a leader, set objectives for your sons and your daughters such as becoming a doctor, an engineer, an accountant, a medical social worker and so on.
Keep using "dip stick" approach, keep on observing and analyzing
which direction your sons and daughter are going or likely to go

Whatever your sons and daughters become assets or liabilities,
70 percent depends upon you and 30 percent on luck

A pin can't hold a quart-if it holds a pint it is doing all that can be expected of it!!
(Each child has a different capacity)

Don't be afraid to ask dumb questions;
they are more easily handled than dumb mistakes

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Educations is when your children can play with their gradparents, their uncles,
their friends, and so on

Help your children to take and make decisions. Educate them with examples and stories

Let your children spend a few days in a joint-family system, a few days in a family where both husband and wife work, a few days in a big city, a few days in small town,
and a few days on a farm and in a village. This is also education

Ensure that you have a two-way communication with your children. It is difficult but not impossible. Your children are going to be mocked at several times,
sometimes on silly grounds; let them get confidence that you are there to suffer with them. Remember that, in a two-way communication, it is not the words only but silence,
too, that i can do miracle

Do things to make your children proud of you and don't be a preacher but be a doer

Try to be as honest and truthful and as sincere as possible. Even if your wife and your children laugh at you, it is only outwardly. Inside they will be proud of you

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You are your children's hero. Remember that, also remember that God has fitted the world's largest and best video tape recorder in your children's minds. The way you treat your parents, employees, associates, customers ; well, all are getting taped to be played back to you later

Catch them doing something right. Most of us as parents ignore such opportunities and get obsessed with marks in schools and colleges. Teach them selflessness

Proverb contain destilled wisdom of all ages, your sons and daughter won't have to invent their own whells. Books will give them a headstart and thats is important.
Encourage them to read non-fiction

Use creativity when you want your children to get into the habit of creativity

Skipping college life may be a smart thing but not a wise one

Why do we want our children to grow so fast that they regret it when they look back?
Some parents send their three year-old children to schools
and put so many anxietes on them that they get ulcers

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When your wife says she has a headache, she may be saying that you are neglecting her.
Do not give her an aspirin. The medicine required is flowers

Spend more time in taking care of our sons and daughters and converting
them into assets, even if both are liabilities to start with.

Life has become very complicated and please don't make it worse
by neglecting or overprotecting or overproviding for your children.

The chemistry of each child, like a customer or a client,
is so different that it is not funny.
Be creative.

"Successful parents normally do not have successful children",
prove it wrong and let it be a challenge to you.

Put yourself in your children's shoes. Let them be known
on their own and not as your children. Give them opportunities to achieve small, small success. Don't push them. Do not insult them by comparisons

The Human Mind

The human mind is like a parachute, its only works when it is open. A closed mind is like a gloomy cave made gloomier by the cobwebs of ignorance and prejudice.

An open mind is like a sunny meadow where fresh ideas sprout and blossom.

In the history of mankind, whenever man has opened the shutters of his mind, healthy new ideas have breezed in. And he has vigorously stepped out of his narrow confines to discover continents and oceans, planets and galaxies.

But whenever man has shut out new ideas and gone into hibernation in the safety of old, rigid norms, the human civilization has been shrouded by the gloom of Dark Ages.

Now shake yourself out of your slumber. Step out of the den of stagnant thoughts, into the open field of bold new ideas. Soar high on the strengh of an exploring mind to reach unknown heights of achievements and success.

SBY as one of 100 most Influential Leaders & Revolutionaries

The changes taking place in Indonesia today are among the most remarkable developments in the Muslim world. The country's transition from authoritarianism has proved that as a democracy, Indonesia can be culturally vibrant and economically prosperous.

Since winning the presidency in 2004, Susilo Bambang Yudhoyono has managed to keep the nation afloat, even during the current global recession. However, significant challenges lie ahead. Poverty remains pervasive in Indonesia, and the government must press onward with improvements to the country's ailing infrastructure. Businesses are confronted with a bewildering array of regulations, and the country pays a heavy price in corruption and bribery.

The coming presidential election promises to be good to Yudhoyono, 59, thanks in no small measure to his having for the most part delivered on his promises. The history of Indonesia's democratic journey may not be that long, but it has thus far shown that the country's people will not re-elect a President who falls short of expectations.

The time is right for Indonesia, as the world's most populous Muslim nation, to assume a more prominent position in Asia and throughout the Muslim world. In response to President Obama's warm overtures to Muslim countries for a new phase in relations with the U.S., Yudhoyono can take the lead and chart a new course for the region.

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The more clear you are on what you want, the more power you will have to achieve it

Following a precedent is an easy substitute for thinking

Fundamental requirement for success; humility

How many of us have realized that since we were given two ears and one mouth it might be that we were intended to listen twice as much as we speak

Nothing is lost by emptying, the cup that empties to receive it still the cup

I believe in loyalty, for if I am not true to others, I cannot be true to myself

I believe in holding up my chin, for self-respect commands respect from others

I thought for 25 minutes decided to change myself than 25 years to change others

I am changing myself, having less expectations from others, not reacting ahrply to their behaviour

The great pleasure in life is doing what people say you cannot do

Dare to dream, dare to try, dare to fail, dare to succeed

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Other men see things as they are and ask, 'Why?' I see things that never were and ask, 'Why not?'

99.0% of our time is spent on collecting statistics and the balance on implementing with ideas, this may seem efficient but not effective. Those who succeed probably spend in the ratio 90 : 10 and cause ripple. Finding facts is essential but thinking up ideas for better ways is what we get paid for

All that you are is a result of all that you have thought

A man's life is what his thoughts make of it

You become what you THINK you will

Every thought we think is creating our future

The wise man thinks before acting and the fool thinks after it

A change for better always starts with a change of thinking

Where your mind your energy flows

9 Points Formula to Kill an Association

1. Don't participate beyond paying your dues. Let 'them handle the things. Then complain that members have no voice in association
2. Decline all office, committe meetings and appoinments, YOU ARE TOO BUSY. Then offer vociferous advice on how to do the things
3. Even then, if appoinmented to the excecutive committee, don't work, it's a courtesy appoinment. Then complain that the association has stagnated
4. If you do attend General Body Meetings, don't initiate new ideas. Then you can play "Devil's Advocat" to those submitted by others
5. Don't valunteer your talents, thats ego fulfilment. Then complain that you are never asked and never appreciated
6. Don't rush to pay your dues, these are too high anyway. Then complain about the poor financial management
7. Don't encourage others to become the members, that's selling. Then complain that you are not receiving the mail and bulletins
8. Don't read and respond mail from the headquarters, it is not important. Then complain that you are not kept informed
9. Don't inform about your change in job and address, it is 'their' duty to find out. Then complain that you are not receiving the mail and bulletins

And, if by chance, your association grows well, in spite of your non-contributions

Grasp every opportunity to tell your younger generation, how tough it was and how hard 'we' worked in the old days to bring the association to its present level of success.

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Take advice as you would take a sandwich with two big slices of doubt

When it is impossible to change others, you must change yourself

For every 10 minutes you are angry, you lose 600 seconds of happiness

My problem was I kept reading books on leadership and excellence and management when I should have been working

Take tree minutes to think of yourself first

Winners develop the habit of doing the things that losers don't like to do

Study and follow professional management principles apply them logically and partically toyour organization

Work fewer hours; some of us waste half our time

Don't do anything which someone else can do for you

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Try to forget useless things. To remember everything is to make your mind dustbin

You're not ready to live untuil you're ready to die

Unless you are willing to come to your job and be fired every day, you cannot do your job properly

Anger, like revenge, is a drink best served cold.A little displeasure, in low voice, should do the trick. Difficult, not impossible

Follow no one but learn from everyone

Management is a series of interruptions, interrupted by other interruptions! learn to reduce interruptions

Procrastination is the thief of time, it kills development

If you want to move mountains, you have to first learn how to move particles

If you do not make mistakes, it only means you are not trying 100%

Beyond Murphy's Law

Since Murphy propounded his law in 1949 his pronouncements have been lovingly built upon and developed further by many new contributors. A sample of some of the more thinkers ones follow :

1. Heller's Law : The first myth of management is that exist
2. Dow's Law : In hierarchical organisation, are higher the level, the greater, the confusion
3. Another Murphy's Law : It is impossible to make anything fool-proof, because fools are so ingenious
4. Anderson's Law : I have yet to see any problem, how ever, complicated, which, when, you looked at it right way, did not become still more complicated
5. Boyle's Law : If not controlled, work will flow to the competent man until he submerges
6. Computer Maxim : To err is human but to really fool things up requires computer
7. Golden Principle : Nothing will be attempted if all possible objections must first be overcome
8. Harry's Law : Any philosophy that can be put "in a nutshell" belongs there
9. Hall's Law : The means justify the means. The approach to a problem is more important than its solution
10. Vail's Axiom : In any human enterprise, work seeks the lowest hierarchical level
11. Langsam's Ort. Axiom : It's difficult to soar with eagles when you work with turkeys
12. Weiler's Law : Nothing is impossible for the man who doesn't have to do himself
13. Edelstain's Advice : Don't worry over what other people are thinking about you. They're too busy worrying
    

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keep on mulling your ideas remembering that even the best can be made better

Keep on reviewing your basics

TO ACT RIGHT, you have to look right and feel right

Life's greatest thrill is tomorrow

Machines must work. Men must think

Many a live wire would be a dead one except for his connections

Most people expect more respect from others than they give to themselves

SUCCESS isn't the oppositeof failing. A runner may come in last, but if he beats his record, he succeeds

Never leave the bridge (of a ship) in a storm

Don't be afraid to take a big step if one is indicated. You can't cross a chasm in two small jumps

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I decided to make a pearl out of this feeling of displeasure of this foreign body under my skin

If at first you don't succeed, try once more and then try something else

One is not born a genius, one becomes a genius

It is not only machinery that becomes obsolete. One has to guard obsolence of the mind

If you are still tender enough to feel ashamed, thank God and ask to keep you that way

Do not postpone the unpleasant and difficult tasks. Do them now, you will feel much better afterwards

If you make up your mind to do three things, i.e.to work, to save and to learn...you can rise in this world

It is impossible to fly like an angel with the wings of pigeon

Keep on learning from your succeeses, so you repeat them; from your failures, so you never make the same one twice

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Polished copper is cheaper but makes more impression than crude gold

Do the thing you fear, and fear will disappear

All men make mistakes; only the fools repeat them

Indecisions is expensive, very expensive

Learn from failurs;do not brood over them

Empty sacks will never stand upright

Even the president's pencil has eraser on it

A wise man speaks when other have exhausted their words

Get a good 'radar' ,and keep it sweeping

An open mind collects more riches than an open purse

I am learning to say 'NO'

Say 'NO' to Temptation

A young woman successfully achieved a considerable weight loss, here is what he did : She pictured explicity the weights she wanted to reach by a certain age. Each time she was tempted, she was estimated how long to take her to eat the gooey desserts, chocolate or other reach food. Then she thought how happy she would feel after those few minutes had she not eaten it. For the first time she began to experience the thrill of self-mastery. At bed time, she ran over her temptation mentally and added up all the fattening things she had not eaten that day. Eagerly, she looked forward to topping her record the next day. She achieved er weight goal. And she held it,too

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Crowding one's life doesn't always enrich it

Concentration is the secret of strenght in war, in trade, in short, in all management of human affairs

Do not invent the wheel. Start from where the others left

Glory is a poison that can only be taken in small doses

Challenge is a part of life and you learn how to take it in your stride knowing that you will win most of the time, but become a better man either way for having tried

You can either be honest or dishonest, you cannot be little bit honest and little bit dishonest like women is either pregnant or not pregnant

It is difficult to soar with eagles when you work with turkeys

One pound of learning requires ten pounds of common sense to apply it

90% and 10% Facts of Life

1. 90% of puncture (flats) happen in the last 10% of tyre life.
2. 90% of the things in our lives are right and 10% are wrong.
3. 90% of the financial worries are due to 10% over spending.
4. 90% of your friends will hurt you and only 10% will give you support when chips are down
5. 90% of your work can be done by your subordinates and genuinely get paid only for 10% (Those who follow deserve what they get).
6. 90% of your work is routine; it is the balance 10% that requires thinking.
7. 90% of the decisions can be taken immediately on the basis of past experience and only 10% require in-dept analysis.
8. 90% of your customers are reasonable; it is only 10% of them that require tactful handling.
9. 90% of our members repay they dues in time ; it is only the balance 10% that makes us spend sleepless nights.
10. 90% of the overdues become so only recently, it is only 10% that continue to be overdue for a long periode.
11. 90% of tension is created by 10% of each carelessness and laziness.
12. 90% of the old records and letters are never reffered to again.
13. 90% of the errors in typewritten letters can be hand corected; only 10% of such letters need to be retyped.
    

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A wise man is one who forgets the faults of others, but always remembers his own

Big achievements can be made only by a man who is content with small beginnings

Build your self-respect via the joy of role exellence

The genuine beauty of aquiring knowledge is that you can learn anytime

Say "SORRY" at the right moment

Chasing after the impossible you lose what is possible

Cut your social functions where you subtitute will be equally good and no one will miss you

The fullest and best ears of corn hang toward the ground

Like a tree, we each must find a place to grow and branch out

Those who fret over small issues only demonstrate their inability to find
anything big in their lives

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Always tell yourself : The difference between running a business and ruining a business is "I"

Accepting responsibility is accepting challenge

If you want to be a succees, display enough courage to welcome failures

Giving a drink of water to an enemy is like putting a lump of burning charcoal on his head

God grant me the serenity to accept the things I cannot change, the courage to change the things I can and the wisdom to know the difference

All confidence is aquired or self-developed through positive thinking which is triggered by good books, good friends and good visits

Do not wait for extra-ordinary circumstance to do good actions; try to use ordinary situations

There is no blindness except blindness of the heart

EXCELLENT ACTION

Excellence in Action in a dealership is when employees :

PAY ATTENTION TO DETAILS

DO THINGS RIGHT THE FIRST TIME

PRACTICE GOOD HUMAN RELATIONSHIP

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Nothing is impossible to the man who doesn't have to do it himself

It doesn't matter whether you can be proud of your ancestors; what matter is if they can be proud of you

You can't keep your eyes on hills when your nose is on grindstone

Man has a hidden treasure within. Difficulties and setbacks bring it forth

There are two ways of spreading light; To be the candle or the mirror that reflects it

Failure means delay, not defeat

Ratio between hard work and luck is 70:30

A well organized mind, even in a restaurant, will order in sequence food is usually listed on a menu, served, and eaten

"I can't do it" never accomplished anything yet

Statistics

Statistics are often used as a drunkard uses a lamppost, not to light his way but, to support his instability.

Someone has said: "There are three kinds of lies,viz lies, damnable lies and statistics!"

Whenever we collect business statistics, we must keep these words in mind. Collection of statistics costs a lot of money and time and if not done wisely, can mean money down the drain. In several situations, the concept of sense of approximation should be applied. Just make a guess, and very often this may be cheaper and faster than collecting detailed information or statistics. Statistics are no subtitute for judgement. Therefore, when collected using a bit of common sense, statistics can help in taking better and faster decisions.
Most of us would recall the story about statistician who, going by the average depth of river, drowned in the middle.

On statistics, George Bernard Shaw has also very wisely said;

"Of all damnable waste of human life, clerking is the worst. Fifty thousand entries a year that poor wretch makes and mot ten of fifty thousand are reffered to again"

Total dependence on statistics can be misleading.

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Unless you are forced to use your mind, you become mentally lazy and you will never fulfil your potential

Napoleon was an early riser. An hour's less sleep per day will add five years to your working life

You're most happy if you don't know who's the boss in your home

There is no one way by which you, when take a decision, can please every one

Speak your truth quietly and clearly; and listen to others, even the dull and ignorant; they have their story

Take calculated risk. Doing so is quite different from being rash

The worlds' largest fires can be extinguished by pouring a cup of water at the right time

Learn to live with your mental doors unlocked so that you can let ideas come in

A person doesn't learn to choose a good alternative without choosing a few bad ones

The cost is long forgotten. But the quality is remembered forever

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Be willing to spend today for tommorow's growth

Education is the ability to meet life's situations

The great aim of education is not knowledge but action

It's that what you learn after you know it all counts

It is foolish to learn things that one has to forget later on

Either I will find a way or make one

A man can succeed atalmost anything for which he has unlimited enthusiasm

In his first year in the automobile business, Henry Ford went bankrupt.
Two years later, his second company also failed. His third corporation has done rather well, however

If it were not for the rock in its bed the stream would have so nong

A manager succeeds or fails not so much because of what he does, but because what he is able to get someone else to do

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When we are not engaged in thingking about some definite problem, we usually spend about 95 percent of our time thingking about ourselves

Treat EVERY PROBLEMS as a road block which forces you to take a detour. You may find the best during this forced detour, if your mind is active and vigilant

If you have a rupee and I have another, and we axchange, we have one rupee each; If you have a better idea and I heve another, and we exchange, we have to better ideas each

Any fool can criticise, condemn and complain and most fools so

The fire you kindle for your enemy burns yourself more than him

Stop existing. Start living

Honestly is still the best policy with a little bit of common sense

There always one thing more to do

The Stream of Life

Try to be like flowing water. Every time the stream of water is confronted by stones, it tries to break them or it diverts itself, so that it constantly remains in motion. The water that stops when confronted, stagnates and turns green with moss all over.
Examination in life are liike stones.When you confront them, take them one, give all your might, and you may pass over, let the examinations hinder your path and you become a pond. The path to success is vast; let not the examinations determine how long you can travel, in line develop a keen sense to be able to distinguish what examinations you can break, what examinations you can cut and,what examinations you better avoided, when to take and when to wait to build a momentum. "Dont worry; be happy"

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The average man develops only ten percent of his latent mental ability

Have no quarrels with life as long as you have something to do when you get up every morning

Choose a job you love. And you will never have to work a day in your life.

If i had eight hours to chop a tree, I would spend six hours sharpening my axe

90 percent of the decisions can be taken immediately on the basis of past experience and only 10 percent require in depth analysis

Match stick is a transportable and pocketable fire. Before it was invented, people laughed at the idea just as they do if someone today suggest to have an air-conditioner of a pen size

A vacation should be just long enough for the boss to miss you, and not long enough for him to discover how well he can get along without you

Kites Rise Against, Not the Wind

Like they say, "the gem cannot be polished without friction, nor man without trials". Look adversity directly in the eye and it will diminish in size. Face it with conviction because only if you go through the wars bravely, you get the medals. And, isn't it always more fun to win a hard fight than an easy one?

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By working sincerely for eight hours a day, you can get promoted to be a boss and work twelve hours a day

Even if you're on the right track, you'll get run over if you just sit there

At the start or your career, what you learn is more important than what you earn

If you do not know how to speak, better learn how to speak, better learn hoe to keep quiet

The people who make haste are usually saving minutes after having wasted hours

There is no indegestion worse than that which comes from having to eat your own words

Take the decision. If it is right, well and good. And if it is wrong, you will find out soon enough

Leadership usually gravitates to the man who can get up and say what he think

There is no expedient to which a man will no resort to avoid the labour of thinking

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One of these days is none of these days; today is the day to start the big job

Admitting you're wrong is modest way of showing you've grown a little wiser

Ships are safer in the harbour but they are not meant for that purpose

the most important thing for a young man is to establish reputation and character

Some people pay so much attention to their reputation that they lose their character

You better pay attention to your future because you are going to spend a lot of time there

when the wise ge angry, they lose their wisdom

Do not wait for the best idea. Implement the better idea, still better and the best will follow

Be a lion at heart and do not forget the tact of a fox

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The human mind is like parachute, it only works when its open

Those who cannot remember the past are condemned to repeat it

The best way to make your dreams come true is to wake up

You cannot be anything IF you want to be everything

If at first you do succed, try to hide your antonishment

It is ideas that earn the money and not money that earns the ideas

There's plenty of room at the top but there's no room to sit down

If you want to gather money, don't kick over the beehive

It is easier to fight for one's priciples than to live up to them

Even a fish, wouldn't get into trouble if he'd keep his mouth shut

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Fear of losing can take the joy out of winning

I ruined time; now time is ruining me

Experience is one thing you can't get for nothing

The ability to speak as a short cut to distinction

If you can't stand the heat, get out of the kitchen

Nothing dies faster than a new idea an a closed mind

Reading without thinking is like eating without digesting

Ideas, like time and tide, wait for no one

Our trouble is not ignorance, but inaction

When you're sure it's good enough...improve it

One grain of sand at a time. One task at a time

Organize yourself well to have more time to do the things you love to do

The pen is mightier than the sword

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Do important jobs now before they become urgent

Do your "SWOT" analysis today. (Strengths, Weaknesses, Opportunities, and Threats)

Identify your weak link and act now

Don't make the best enemy of better

Manage your time as you manage your money

Think, decide, do what you think is right

The key of succes is knowing yourself

Every stone can be stepping stone

Conceit is the quicksand of succes

The greatest loss is the loss of self confidence

Learn to say "no"

The bow that bends too strictly snaps itself

Look for Inspiration

Thomas Alva Edison said, "Genius is one percent ispiration and ninety nine percent perspiration". But, where does one look for that spark of inspiration in a life groaning under humdrum routine? Or does inspiration come on its own, choosing it own time and place (like...a bath tub for Archimedes who yelled 'Eureka' (I have found it) and ran out naked when he discovered determine the purity of gold by applying the principle of spesific gravity.

One has to look for inspiration with concious effort. And, what better place to look for inspiration than within 'inspiring words'. Didn't somebody said, "The power of thought can move mountains!"

Management of Self 1

Think...there must be a better way

Do it NOW

Ask for it

The future is NOW

Stick your neck out

Keep your mind 6 to 9 per cent empty

Positive Attitude pays

Thingkin is hard work

Problems are only solutions in disguise

Most problems are really the absence of ideas

Learn by listening. Understand by reflecting

Be daring in setting priorities

Starve the problems, feed the opportunities